Sharing our excitement

One thing we never wanted to forget in our losses is that others have experienced pain and loss along with us. Many people either avoid the topic because frankly it is uncomfortable or they are more self consumed and simply don't think about our journey. Either way, don't most of us do that with many things anyway?

But then comes our parents. It is sometimes difficult for me to gauge the pain they have felt. I know it is there. Is it more pain because they see their children reeling or is it pain because they too have been deprived of one of life’s greatest exercises - being grandparents? I would assume it is a little of both but in an attempt to involve them in the process, we are taking a little different approach with Cocoa Bean.

As my previous posts indicate, I feel marriages are sacred on many levels. For that reason, we tend to keep many things to ourselves. But we have felt this pregnancy to be more important to engage our parents. While we have made the life choice to live far from them, we have already made things a little more difficult on them so the least we can do is give them experiences that they wouldn't alternatively have. One is joining us in our journey, albeit in a simple way.

We had my mother come to town this week to experience our ultrasound. What a great experience it was. With this being about our 6th or so, the glee has somewhat faded when we see that little one come up on the screen but you could feel the anticipation and exhilaration gleaming from my mom. Not that I don't still feel pride and joy in seeing the ultrasound but that feeling up my spine isn't the same each time I see Cocoa ticked off that some lady is pushing on their sack of serenity. However, I could completely feel my mom's wonder pouring throughout the room. She deserves that feeling and why not give it to her now instead of waiting until October when Cocoa makes his/her grand appearance. It gives her the ability to connect on another level with everything which is both deserved and long overdue.

We look forward to giving that same feeling and experience to Tiffany's parents in the coming weeks. There's nothing else like it and I can't wait for them to feel that same overwhelming excitement that we only wish they could have had long before.